How To Get Him "Addicted" To You ( by Christian Carter )

Did you know that getting a guy "addicted" to you won't happen JUST BECAUSE you're:

-- the most beautiful woman he knows
-- or the smartest
-- or the most "together" and successful?

Nope, it doesn't work that way.

It happens because of the way he experiences you on an EMOTIONAL level, not necessarily JUST on a physical or intellectual level.

A man's not going to think, "I have to have this woman in my life!" because you've impressed him with your intellectual prowess or because you have great abs.

Ok - maybe he'll want you "for now" because he'll be physically attracted to you, but he's not going to be thinking about a long-term "serious" relationship with you because of those reasons.

There's only one reason a man will become literally addicted to you for life... And that's because he feels a strong EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION to you.

You think to yourself:

"Why does love and a relationship have to be so difficult?"

"If only men weren't so difficult to be with."

But then your "protective" side kicks in, and you start fighting these feelings and tell
yourself:

"I don't need a man."

"I'm happy with my life as it is."

"I'm happy to be single and focus on myself right now, instead of wasting my time and energy in a dead-end situation with a man."

"Men are all screwed up and trouble anyway, and I don't need that in my life right now."

Ahhhh... it starts to work and you calm down and regain your "cool."

But somewhere deep down inside, you know why you felt sad -

You want a REAL CONNECTION.

You want to share REAL LOVE and BE LOVED.

And you wonder how long you can avoid the reality that these things are MISSING from your
life by staying busy and taking care of other areas of life.

You know you can't go on this way forever.

Something has to change.

This story is basically a myth... a collection of common situations, fears, beliefs, etc., that women experience.

Communicating with a man from a place of fear and insecurity will more often create DISTANCE
than it will bring you and him together.

Unless the guy you're with is ALREADY an expert at communicating and dealing with these things himself.

If only men were experts when it came to having open, lasting relationships and communicating in ways that would bring you closer, right?

Wouldn't that be nice.

Well, the truth is men are RARELY experts in these areas.

And sure... a man COULD come along and be such a wonderful and amazing guy that he would help make relationships and communicating easier.

But if that doesn't happen, or the great guy you do find doesn't happen to have these natural
skills and abilities (and by the way, most men don't)...

Then guess what?

It's up to YOU.

He's not going to make it work FOR YOU.

In fact, the reality is that as you are first becoming close with a man, he's more likely to
trigger your own fears than to help resolve them.

I'm not telling you about this right now just because I'm trying to teach you some "mumbo jumbo" about how thoughts, energy and intention work together...

(Which they do.)

But for another simple reason -

There's something you can do right now to DRAMATICALLY improve the level of connection and intimacy you have in your love life.

It all starts in one place.

Paying attention to HOW YOU THINK.

On a basic level, your own patterns of THINKING and FEELING lead to the ACTIONS you take and the BEHAVIOR you display.

And guess what can create a "negative filter" on your THINKING and FEELINGS?

FEAR.

And if you're finding that your actions and behaviors aren't "naturally" attracting good men
and creating healthy long-term relationships... then you've got something to look at right now:

Your own thoughts and emotions, and your own fears.

And, of course, you could worry about HIS ISSUES too, but let's save working on him for later when you're up to speed on all this for yourself.


GETTING PAST FEAR, "CONNECTING" ON A DEEP LEVEL, AND MAKING MEN ADDICTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP...

What do you DO when you have negative, fearful, limiting thoughts and situations going on in your mind that are affecting your love life?

Women who are in CONTROL of their own fears and emotions when it comes to men, dating and
relationships.

Why?

It's NOT because feelings and emotions themselves are bad...

Feelings and emotions are probably the most beautiful part of what makes us human and allows us to experience the world in a deep and meaningful way.

But, what I'm talking about here are NEGATIVE feelings.

Because negative feelings, more often than not, lead to NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES.

And women who are in CONTROL of their EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES and who have a handle on their own emotional state, know how to do something that other women can't and will never be able to fake...

They know how to consistently create more POSITIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES with men.

On one level, it really is that simple.

In practice, it's much harder.

So let's get on now to ATTRACTION.

The truth is that men are attracted to one woman and not another largely because of the way that one woman makes them FEEL.

And NOT because of what logically sound qualities each person and the relationship has.

ATTRACTION and CONNECTION have their own "logic."

A man is attracted to a woman and wants to be with her, and only her, because of the way he
FEELS when he's around her.

And not for any other reason.

Not even if the women is the most loving, caring, sweet, generous, and intelligent woman in
the world.

I'm even going to "translate" this for you so you're sure to start seeing it more clearly -

Translation: The emotional experiences that a man has when he's around a woman are the single
most powerful reasons why he either wants a long-term relationship, or doesn't.

And to make this even more clear, let me tell you what this DOESN'T mean...

It DOESN'T mean that a man wants to be with a woman because he VALUES a relationship and having true love in his life.

Or that a woman can be so good to a man and do so many loving and generous things for him that he recognizes the LOGICAL value of staying with her and makes the "right" decision.

Feelings and emotions have their own logic, which has NOTHING to do with what makes "sense" or what is "fair."

And the sooner you accept this as true about men, the easier EVERYTHING in your love life and
relationship will become.

CREATING A DEEP LEVEL OF "EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION" THAT WILL LEAD TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

So how do you make a man FEEL when he's around you?

What are the conscious and subconscious emotional reactions and responses he's likely to
be having with you, based on your emotions and your behavior?

Take a minute and think about it.

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Here's the bottom line:

A woman who can communicate to a man on a deeper level that she's AWARE and IN CONTROL of her own experience and "emotional" state will make a man feel INTENSE ATTRACTION for her on that same emotional level.

She's an "emotionally attractive" woman, which can tell a man all kinds of things about her
BEYOND the PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and interest he might have.

On the other hand...

Women who DON'T have a handle on these things have quite a different effect on men...

These women can still usually make men feel PHYSICAL ATTRACTION - but they often set off all kinds of conscious and subconscious "warning signs" in a man's mind.

Signals that then become FEELINGS and EMOTIONS inside the man that tell him to RUN.

And under no circumstance commit himself and attach his emotional experience to hers.

Here's the strangest part about women who send off these "warning signals" to men...

Most women do this largely BY ACCIDENT.

That's right. Lots of women actually trigger negative responses inside a man's mind while doing things they think are FOR THE GOOD of the relationship.

How's that for COUNTERPRODUCTIVE?

And hey... I know it might bother you to hear some of what I'm saying. And that you probably have been more caring and generous with your thoughts and emotions in your past situations with men than they were with you.

I get that.

But someone needs to tell you how men really and truly think when it comes to women and relationships.

And of course men have their own specialized set of "baggage" and fears, too.

But let me ask you:

What do you know, FROM EXPERIENCE, will happen if a man doesn't deal with his own fears about women and relationships?

DISASTER.

I'm talking withdrawal, break-ups, cheating, lying, etc.

The list goes on.

But if a guy takes the time and develops the "emotional maturity" to think about the negative
and limiting fears HE HAS about women and relationships...

And finds a healthy level of AWARENESS and CONTROL around these...

Then this is the kind of guy that women will "naturally" be drawn to and enjoy being with.

Your first step to creating a situation with a man where you BOTH feel the level of connection
that will create and support a lasting relationship is to accept that MEN DON'T MAKE
SENSE.

Why?

Because remember, our EMOTIONS don't follow a logical or "rational" path.

Knowing exactly what NOT TO DO will bring you the CLARITY you've been looking for with men, and save you tons of wasted time and energy in your love life.