He Doesn't Understand Your Feelings...hmmmmmm

Well, have you ever find yourself constantly wondering how your man feels and what he's thinking...

And find yourself having to "guess" instead of getting the answers straight from him because
the "connection" isn't there...

Do you feel like a man takes everything you say the WRONG WAY?

Does it seem that any time something important or emotional comes up, he either dismisses you or gives you the cold shoulder - and you don't know what to do about it?

For example, let's take a situation where you go on a date with a man you met online.

You have a great time, he tells you that he really LIKES you and would love to get to know you better.

At the end of the evening he asks if you'd like to get together again in a few days.

You say yes.

He says, "Great! Why don't I call you in a couple of days and set something up?"

A "couple of days" go by and no call.

The day you were supposed to get together comes and goes and you still don't hear from him.

Finally, when you just about gave up on him, he calls you... acting like nothing is wrong and nothing out of the ordinary happened.

Now - you've had a few days to wonder and "stew" about this. So how do you tell him what you've been feeling?

And how does this either PUSH a man away, or draw him closer to you?

What comes out of your mouth towards the other person is the result of all that processing.

It's totally LOADED with meaning - meaning the guy just can't possibly "get" in the moment.

For example, when you say "Why didn't you call me the other night?"

What you really MEAN by that is much more complicated. What it actually means is:
"I want to have a relationship with a mature man who cares about me and is thoughtful and does what he says he'll do. You don't seem to be that guy right now. Are you going to be uncaring and distant, or will you step up and be a REAL MAN?"

But when a man HEARS, "Why didn't you call?" three things can happen:
i) he can either ignore you with a lame excuse,
ii) get defensive,
iii) or actually CONNECT.

If you know how to emotionally ENGAGE a man, he will connect and respond to you in this way:

"Sorry I didn't call. I got caught up at work and couldn't get away. But I thought of you."

But if you DON'T know how to emotionally engage a man, you'll constantly feel frustrated and ignored by a man.

Instead of communicating his feelings to you, he'll get angry, distant or stop calling altogether.

This is the problem that comes from not knowing the skills for good COMMUNICATION and CONNECTION with a man.

You'll need to learn what it means when he says something...and what it means when he says nothing at all.

You'll also need to learn ways of communicating that go BEYOND WORDS.