Ever dated a man who you shared an incredible connection with, but then he suddenly wanted his "freedom" ...
Do you ever feel like it's impossible to understand what a man is thinking when it comes to "dating" and relationships?
But just then you realize how much he is starting to mean to you... and in the back of your mind it kind of freaks you out.
And it's then that the dating and relationship nightmares from your past flash back in your mind...
Your mind races with fear and anxiety.
But to keep it together you put faith in the situation and in this man. You tell yourself that it's different this time, and that he isn't one of those other guys.
And to make sure things keep moving forward in the right direction, you start trying a little harder with him to get it right this time.
You do all kinds of nice things for him.
You make the effort to find out all about him, understand him, and help him out with the things that are going on for him in his life.
With all you're doing for him and your relationship, he'd be crazy not to want to be with you.
But after a few more dates, suddenly something starts to feel WRONG...
That same easy and free way of loving and being with each other suddenly feels different.
You realize how much you're doing for him and all the ways you're trying... and suddenly it hits you -
He isn't making much of an effort to do anything for you or your relationship.
Not the way you are with him.
Then you realize that he's been calling you less than he used to.
He doesn't seem as excited to be with you and share his thoughts and feelings as he used to be at first.
He even stops making much in the way of plans, and starts doing a lot of other things he wasn't doing before.
And since you don't want to keep calling him, you wait for his call... hoping he'll make weekend plans with you.
But Thursday comes, and then Friday, and still no call.
Your worst fears are starting to be realized. But you don't want to overreact.
So even though you're hurt and upset that he didn't call you... you want to be with him, so you reluctantly call him.
You tell yourself there must be a good reason and that he's been busy or something.
When you finally get ahold of him, he doesn't even sound like the same guy.
He talks like he hardly knows you and you've never been close.
You try to be casual and ask him what he's been doing, but you want to know what he's been doing and why he hasn't called you.
At this point, you feel incredibly hurt, frustrated, unappreciated, and misunderstood.
You even become intensely UPSET and ANGRY with him, and with yourself. How could you have misunderstood what was happening and not seen this coming!?
Some women actually go on to spend the next few weeks or maybe even MONTHS doing everything they can to try and win the guy back.
They think that if they can just get him to stop ignoring what it is that they share, and to not be afraid... that the guy will "come to his senses" and come back to them.
If you've ever been in this situation, here are the 5 most common ways women respond that don't work and push men away or turn them off for good:
1) Pretending you don't want anything serious either and keep on sleeping with the man "casually" in hopes that things will grow from the "physical relationship"
2) Staying close to him by trying to become his "best friend" as you help him in his life and with his problems - all the while imagining the "payoff" of a real relationship for your good deeds once he recognizes how great you are
3) Trying to make him jealous by telling him you're seeing other guys, even if you're not. Or going out with other guys and doing things with them not because you like them, but because you want him to find out and want you back
4) Getting mad at him and telling him he's dumb, immature, and acting like a little BOY...and that he's just scared of a real relationship and a commitment - and then trying to get him to have a relationship with you to "fix" himself
5) Trying to make him interested in you by complimenting him, doing nice things for him, taking up things he's interested in to be around him... and being available to him at anytime he should show interest. This is kind of like trying to be his "best friend," but different since it's often still sexual.
None of these responses ever work with men.
Ever.
Doing these things with a man is like instant MAN-REPELLENT.
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