An expert approach me with this Q >> Have you ever just sensed that something was off with your man, but you didn't know what?
Well??? >>>> Of course...
He wouldn't talk to me about it or tell me. He was just quiet and withdrawn.
Trying to figure out what your man is thinking can be a dangerous game.
Not only does trying to figure him out often end up pushing your man away on accident, it usually drives you a little nuts.
Which only makes things worse. Damn rite!!
So ladies, stop wondering and worrying when you don't have to anymore. It's time you got to the heart of the matter and stopped going in circles with men and relationships.
>>>> An advice from an expert....
Here's something ladies should know-
It is possible for a man to sense what you're calling "needy" without you even saying anything.
And...
It's possible that even though your normal feelings of wondering what's going on aren't wrong or needy in an unhealthy way... your man might FEEL like you're being too needy.
The result- he's not showing you the same level of interest and attraction not because you did something wrong, but because of how he is FEELING.
So what's the difference between what is actually needy, and what a man thinks is needy and unattractive?
It's the way you communicate how you're feeling to him. You might even think of this as the "energy" that you're bringing to him and your relationship.
I'm going to tell you what's really going on with a man when this kind of thing is happening.
But first, I need you to do something.
I need you to stop what you're doing right now.
Then I need you to stop your mind, stop your busy thoughts, and stop trying to "figure
everything out."
I'm going to suggest something you might not understand at first, but I know it's really going to help.
You're on the brink of becoming your own worst enemy here.
Why?
Because you've got a growing case of what I call the "over-analyzing blues."
This is when you know there's something going on with your man that you don't get.
And since you don't know what it is, and you're feeling a bit uncertain about things, something bad starts to happen -
Your mind starts to fill in the blanks of each little thing he does and says with some
kind of negative or fearful thought (even if there's nothing really wrong).
And this creates a negative feedback loop
where-
The more you feel uncertain and unnerved by not knowing what's going on...
The more things feel weird between you...
And thus the worse you feel...
And then the more negative stuff about him and his actions you think and worry about...
And so the more he acts strangely or more distant around you.
The cycle feeds itself and down and down you go.
STOP THE MADNESS.
What you focus on is what you get more of. So if you're focused on what might be wrong,
guess what?
You're going to not only find something, you'll create something to be wrong in the
meantime- and nothing will happen to make anything BETTER.
I want you to do something right now.
I want you to clear your mind of all your thoughts about him.
I want you to picture yourself sitting in your own personal paradise- whatever or
wherever that may be.
It could be on a white sand beach on a tropical island, or it could be on top of a
rolling hill looking out over a plain.
Whatever it is, I want you to picture yourself in a place that calms and soothes you.
Now, I want you to picture something for me-
I want you to picture your guy there beside you, with his arms around you.
I want you to picture how loved and cared for and appreciated you feel with him, and how
incredible it is when you're both connected this way.
Go ahead and picture this.
Now, take that feeling that you're having of the love and connection you feel to him, and take a minute to appreciate what it is that you and he share.
And take a minute to appreciate that feeling and feel GRATEFUL for him and who he is.
Let the love that you feel inside you grow stronger and richer and brighter.
Now that you can feel this love, I want you to think about how your man responds to you when you are this way with him.
Does he reject this kind of feeling from you?
Does he withdraw from this?
No, he doesn't.
Like other men, he CRAVES being with the woman who is in this place of love, and who brings this incredible and irresistible energy to him.
Now that you see this... let me ask you-
How does this energy and love that you share, which your man craves and is the reason he's with you... how does that compare to this uncertain and worried energy and over-analyzing that you're bringing to him and your relationship now?
Think about it for a second.
..
..
And now, think about how this energy could be affecting him?
And how is it affecting you?
And how about your entire relationship?
Here's the first thing I'm getting at:
What if the reason your man seems to be more distant or different with you isn't because something is really wrong?
What if the reason is what YOU are bringing to him and your relationship with what you're thinking and worrying about?
The energy you're putting out there to him doesn't sound like it's the kind that would inspire him to feel energized and passionate around you.
And what do men do when they're around a woman who's going through intense emotions that they don't understand?
What do men do when they don't know what to do emotionally?
They hang back.
They "play it cool."
Or they withdraw to a place where it's easy and there's no heavy emotional stuff going on.
If you think you might be worrying about your relationship, and you find that this only seems to make your man MORE DISTANT... you might want to put 2 and 2 together here.
He might be feeling disconnected or distant from you because you've got so much going on in your head that he doesn't get or even know about.
Danger! This is where you start turning perfectly healthy and normal situations into the kind of situations men can't help but be baffled and frustrated by.
And more importantly, if you keep worrying about this and feeling uncertain and turn to him for answers to why you feel the way you do...guess what?
He's likely not going to stand there with open arms waiting to hear and understand how you feel, and explain himself.
It would be great if men would always do this.
It would be great if a man would always be your "rock".
What happens when they aren't?
Should it all fall apart?
The truth is that men don't often know what's going with you, or why.
They just know if something feels heavy or intense to them.
And when this heavy energy starts to take over in your relationship... this is where a man
will want to ESCAPE.
Which only makes you feel worse and seems to be a signal that something really is wrong.
Or is it?
Men can and will predictably WITHDRAW once you get down the road in your relationship.
Knowing what this means and how to handle it is what can make all the difference, and can be what separates you from any other woman a man has ever dated by making him feel that you're the right woman to be with.
Men get that magic "she's the one" feeling not when they feel like they have to dig into the little things to make your relationship work but when it feels EASY.
Once you know how men really think and feel, it's not only going to feel easy for him... it's going to be EASY for YOU to get what YOU WANT in your relationship.
And you having the relationship you want is what this is really all about.
That's why it's time you stopped wondering what in the world is going on with men, and stopped feeling stuck or frustrated as the same "issues" keep coming up with them.
What if those issues are things that keep coming up because you haven't learned how to avoid or move past them?
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