Mom & Baby Astrology

Mom ~ Capricorn ~ The Goat ~ Dec. 22-Jan.19

Capricorn moms make wonderful parents because they take the job so seriously -- you're responsible, conscientious, and supremely patient (a trait most moms wish they had more of). Your natural ability to allow your child to grow and learn at her own pace is a testament to your maturity and innate understanding that everyone develops on her own timeline -- no need to obsess about hitting every single milestone marker on time. And smart, practical Capricorn moms are instinctively more focused on their child's overall well-being than on pushing for outward signs of perfection in specific areas. (How social is baby? Is she already saying "mama"?)

One big trap for you to avoid is a nagging sense of self-doubt -- were you too quick to correct your child in music class today? Was it wrong to let her cry it out at naptime? Learn to trust that you're doing a great job. Look into your child's eyes, see her smile, and you'll find all the reassurance you need.

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Baby ~ Gemini ~ The Twins ~ May 21-June 21

Your baby is blessed with a quick, engaged mind and needs constant stimulation. Read to her several times a day, and make sure you have lots of little objects (rattles, squishy toys) for her to play with. Satisfy her natural curiosity -- and fend off restlessness -- with pop-up toys, puppet shows, storytime at the library, and frequent field trips (such as to the supermarket or a fish store). A true chatterbox, your little one may be the first in her baby group to speak. Even if it sounds like gibberish, pay attention: In her mind, she always has something crucial to say.

-- Dabney Oliver

My Toddler, Month by Month .... 21months

Physical Development

During her second year, my toddler is continuing to investigate the way things feel, smell, look, sound, and taste. While she may still put inedible things into her mouth as a form of exploration, much as she did when she was a baby, she will rely on her other senses to help her discover the world. She will feel the soft fur on a cat's back, enjoy the smell of fresh muffins baking, observe her reflection in the mirror, listen to the birds or planes overhead, and--hopefully--sample the flavors and textures of new things to eat. My toddler may even become overwhelmed or overstimulated by too much sensory input (at a birthday party, for instance, or after a long outing), and because she lacks the awareness and words to tell you me, she act fussy or distracted, or "melt down" into tantrums or tears. For her, the world is a sensory banquet, but one that must be savored in small, child-size bites!

Social Development

Dracula alert! Though toddlers tend to put fewer things into their mouths as they get older, some may, on occasion, bite another child as an act of aggression, excitement, or discovery. Most often, children bite because they are frustrated or angered by an incident--such as another child's unwillingness to share a toy--and don't have the words to assert themselves or the ability to control the situation. Biting, like hitting, pinching, or hair pulling, is a primal form of expression, and as such, it is not an uncommon behavior in small children, who have yet to develop social skills or understand that their actions have a physical and emotional impact on others. (Remember, kids this age are still naturally egocentric and lack a sense of empathy.) So will a little biter turn into a mean-spirited adult? Probably not. With the proper guidance, a bigger vocabulary, and better sense of self-control, a teeth-baring toddler generally outgrows the biting habit by age 3.

Intellectual Development

Unlike adults, toddlers have no concept of time. And as i've probably discovered, words like "please hurry" or "in a second" don't have the same meaning to an in-the-moment as they do to a parent or even an older child. My toddler is focused on the present, comprehending the notion that things happen here and now (she wants lunch now, she wants to leave the store now, she wants to go to the playground now). But as she approaches her second birthday, she'll slowly begin to understand the concepts of "soon" and "later," particularly i shall need to provide her with concrete examples. ("We'll have lunch soon, right after we bring in the groceries," or "Opah will be here later, right after we finish our lunch.")

I bet, by age 3, my child will start to comprehend that things happen in the past, present, and future, although many preschoolers will use a general term such as "yesterday" for any event that occurred in the past or "tomorrow" for anything that is to take place in the future. By about age 6, children should begin to have a clearer picture of time. At that point i can urge my child to "Hurry, or you'll be late!" and she'll have some idea of what i'm saying.

Sources:Sources: Zero to Three (www.zerotothree.org); Spock, Benjamin, MD, and Parker, Steven J., MD, Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care (Pocket Books, 1998)

How to Express Your Feelings to the One You Love

Love is not about giving or receiving gifts but about sharing each other’s feelings and letting each other know how much you really care. You need to be romantic, creative, and unique. The best way to show someone you really care is by words and how your actions make them feel special. You need to say something coming from the heart and show them from your soul. Love them for who they are and not for who you are.

Steps

1. Think about all the great moments that you have shared with that person for inspiration. If you think you won't remember, write it down or even better, make it into a poem.
2. Try to think of words that can describe what your feelings towards him/her are. The happiness you feel when you are around him/her and the necessity you have to being with him/her.
3. Find a place where you'll be comfortable and alone.
4. Finally, just say it. Don't try to think of the perfect time to say it because sometimes it will never come out, if you become too nervous. If you didn't prepare anything to say, just speak your heart out.

Tips

• Do not stress about it. They are your feelings; you just need to learn how to express them.
• You don't need to be at a fancy place to tell him/her your feelings. Just pick somewhere where you could be alone.
• If you want to be romantic, go somewhere special. For example; you can go where you both met, where you first kissed each other or just somewhere with a nice view or a place that is special to both of you.
• Don't forget to say "I love you," if you do and if you really mean it, say it a lot because that person will never get tired of hearing it.

P/s :~

• To truly love is to give and expect nothing in return. This makes it a giving - giving relationship when both think this way.
• Do not be afraid to give and show your love, understand and respect each other's feelings and emotions. Remember our hearts are fragile and feel everything.
• Don't end it if they don't say it back. Nothing says both parties fall in love at the same time, continue to love them and when it's right for them, they'll say it back.
• Tell them how much you want to be with them and spend as time with them as you can. They will appreciate that you are showing them your love and not just saying it.
• If the girl/guy does not love you back, there is a chance she/he will freak out. Proceed cautiously and slowly

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